I hope all has been well with you. I’ve been great mostly except for the fact that I’m so dark now and I have a slipped disk so that sucks but as I said, mostly great.
The other day on my way home, I actually had a full conversation with myself or as is called, a soliloquy . I had been thinking about the entire concept of feminism and it suddenly hit me why people thought it meant female superiority and then I realised why people might not be it’s greatest fan. Basically Feminism is equality and yes I know people say ‘ why don’t you call it egalitarianism’ instead and then my response to them is, females are the ones who need uplifting. For as long as I know, men have been the protagonists of everything even things you’d think a woman would, like sanitary pads, so it would only make sense that in the fight for equality, women are raised and praised for actions that might have otherwise being ignored had a man done it.
I had an argument the other day with my brother and he was going on about how men were better at acting than women because it was harder for men to win Oscars and then I simply asked, how many movies released each year even have female protagonists?! The fact that there are so many male led movies mean there are more male leads fighting for the few slots thus making it seem like there are plentier better male actors.
The whole concept of feminism involves a female being able to make her own decisions and not simply doing what a backward society says. Whenever feminism is brought up, there’s this whole issue of cooking and nurturing the family, for starters it is very possible for a woman not to want to get married or even have children, this doesn’t make her any less of a woman, it just means she’s not interested in that and should therefore be left to her wits. Not every woman is nurturing. Cooking is something that should be learnt by anyone so saying it’s a woman’s job to cook is as silly as saying it’s a man’s job to provide. We have to look beyond gender roles and see people as individuals. The man can decide with his partner that he wants to be a stay at home parent and then they work together, that shouldn’t be seen as an issue.
This however does not mean women who want to be stay at home mothers and cook and take care of the family should be seen in any less light. It just means that’s what they want and thus the whole point of feminism, being able to make personal choices regardless of what society says and being able to be seen as equals with a man. Women too can be responsible for their families, believe it or not, they are smart enough and the whole burden of the families should not have to be on the men’s heads simply cause they’re the men. I would think an educated people would want equality as it would remove so much burden on themselves but I guess it’s just something we’ll have to keep being on till we finally get our equality.
Oh by the way, thanks again for reading, do share and comment :). I plan on creating a platform in which possible solutions to chauvinism and misogyny can be sought and perhaps a meeting of like minded folks. Do send me a message if you’re interested.